What are these emotion inside us?....
Sometimes you get to have wonderful conversations on FB.
I posted a note about the “Pursuit of Happiness,” and got some interesting point of views.
A recent comment, evoked in me the desire to explore the nature of our emotions.
Carrie wrote: "I think that perhaps that we are all guilty of putting far too much pressure on happiness.
People tend to seek “being happy” as a constant state of being, when what is happiness but an emotion, and how could we possibly define or recognize it without the presence of all our other emotions?
Happiness cannot be a point to reach and never look back.
Our world and surroundings fluctuate and with that our responses to it.
There will always be situations and experience that evoke our whole range of emotions, and this should be embraced!"
These wise and earthly words, inspired me to write this note.
It is true that our expectations of being constantly joyful and happy, is what causes most of our disappointments.
We do need to embrace change and not to fear to feel our emotions.
We need to look at our range of emotions and to be fully honest about what we are feeling.
But it is also important to educate our emotional bodies, and to grow emotionally.
What we felt as kids, in a reaction to certain events, should not be what we feel today, after a life long perspective.
We should be able to process information more maturely and to choose which ones are appropriate and which are not.
We also should be able to look at events with a wider angle view, and not to be so easily dissuaded or fall into despair.
Most of the time, while going through the ebbs in the tides of life, we do luck perspective, and to surrender to pain is indeed a decision that we make.
Things may appear bad today, but may turn out to be a blessing tomorrow, or a natural part of a perfect larger design.
You many have heard the old story about a farming family in ancient China.
They had a son who found a stray horse.
The neighbors said: "how wonderful it is! how lucky you are! Now your son will be able to work the fields so much faster"
The week after, the son fell off the hours and broke his leg in three places.
The neighbors said: "Oh poor family! how unfortunate and unlucky you are.... Your son will not be able to ever work again! if only he did not find this cursed horse... What will you do and who will work your fields?"
A week later the emperor declare war, and called all the able men into service.
The war turned deadly and most men died.
The injured son was not drafted into war, because of his leg.
The neighbors said: "Ho! how lucky and fortunate you are!... Your son is the only young man that survived this deadly war...."
And so the story goes on and on...
When giving up to painful emotions, we sometimes judging the current situation without the benefit of a perspective.
At the time, my divorces were so traumatic.
Today, I am SO GRATEFUL they happened, because I would have not be able to be where I am today, had I not moved out of these situations.
But I am getting sidetracked here.
I set out to explore the ideas of emotions, and their vast range....
There is a school of thought that says that there are only two primal emotions.
Love and fear.
And that all of other emotions emanate from these two.
Fear may take the form of anger, hate, rage, greed, or any other emotion that we categorize as "negative."
When we perceive a dangerous or unpleasant situation, we first feel fear.
We feel frightened, because we perceive ourselves as threatened in some manner, (we may feel that our reality, or our bodies or our loved ones, are threatened) and we proceed to feel the next set of emotions, which may be anger, or rage or hate, based on our conditioning and energies.)
Fear based emotions are always a reaction to a voice that speaks of the ego's belief system.
The ego perceives the world as a dangerous place.
It sees other people as potential threat or as takers, and It perceives resources as limited and finite .
The ego also sees and believes in sickness and in death.
It holds the physical reality as the only reality and does not believe that spirit is real.
The second primary emotion is LOVE.
Some say that you can substitute the word GOD with the word LOVE.
That LOVE is all there is.
And love, as an emotion, may take the form of happiness, joy, peace, calmness.... Etc.
In our society, what people associate with happiness, is being jubilant, joyful, outwardly smiling, laughing...
But deep happiness, does not always take expression in a physical form.
One does not have to be smiling and laughing out loud, to carry a happy heart.
A state of happiness can be just a state of calmness and peace.... Reflected in quiet eyes....
It mostly stems from not holding on to fear based ideas and limiting beliefs.
When you are joyous, you do not need to be dancing in the streets...
A light and loving heart, is happiness and joy.
Happiness is also living with a calm mind...
Experiencing Contentment..... and a trust in the goodness of the Universe, and in your place in it
A sense of inner knowing that there is nothing to fear, beyond what situation you've created and therefore can create again....
When I speak about educating our emotional bodies,
I refer to the ability to judge what occurs with calmer minds and looking for a wider perspective, the ability to suspend judgement and to assume the best.
As we move deeper into our true beings, we learn to see that some emotions that came to the surface so easily in the past, are no longer called for.
We may find that we feel calmer and more peaceful more frequently, and less likely to drift into pain.
I posted a note about the “Pursuit of Happiness,” and got some interesting point of views.
A recent comment, evoked in me the desire to explore the nature of our emotions.
Carrie wrote: "I think that perhaps that we are all guilty of putting far too much pressure on happiness.
People tend to seek “being happy” as a constant state of being, when what is happiness but an emotion, and how could we possibly define or recognize it without the presence of all our other emotions?
Happiness cannot be a point to reach and never look back.
Our world and surroundings fluctuate and with that our responses to it.
There will always be situations and experience that evoke our whole range of emotions, and this should be embraced!"
These wise and earthly words, inspired me to write this note.
It is true that our expectations of being constantly joyful and happy, is what causes most of our disappointments.
We do need to embrace change and not to fear to feel our emotions.
We need to look at our range of emotions and to be fully honest about what we are feeling.
But it is also important to educate our emotional bodies, and to grow emotionally.
What we felt as kids, in a reaction to certain events, should not be what we feel today, after a life long perspective.
We should be able to process information more maturely and to choose which ones are appropriate and which are not.
We also should be able to look at events with a wider angle view, and not to be so easily dissuaded or fall into despair.
Most of the time, while going through the ebbs in the tides of life, we do luck perspective, and to surrender to pain is indeed a decision that we make.
Things may appear bad today, but may turn out to be a blessing tomorrow, or a natural part of a perfect larger design.
You many have heard the old story about a farming family in ancient China.
They had a son who found a stray horse.
The neighbors said: "how wonderful it is! how lucky you are! Now your son will be able to work the fields so much faster"
The week after, the son fell off the hours and broke his leg in three places.
The neighbors said: "Oh poor family! how unfortunate and unlucky you are.... Your son will not be able to ever work again! if only he did not find this cursed horse... What will you do and who will work your fields?"
A week later the emperor declare war, and called all the able men into service.
The war turned deadly and most men died.
The injured son was not drafted into war, because of his leg.
The neighbors said: "Ho! how lucky and fortunate you are!... Your son is the only young man that survived this deadly war...."
And so the story goes on and on...
When giving up to painful emotions, we sometimes judging the current situation without the benefit of a perspective.
At the time, my divorces were so traumatic.
Today, I am SO GRATEFUL they happened, because I would have not be able to be where I am today, had I not moved out of these situations.
But I am getting sidetracked here.
I set out to explore the ideas of emotions, and their vast range....
There is a school of thought that says that there are only two primal emotions.
Love and fear.
And that all of other emotions emanate from these two.
Fear may take the form of anger, hate, rage, greed, or any other emotion that we categorize as "negative."
When we perceive a dangerous or unpleasant situation, we first feel fear.
We feel frightened, because we perceive ourselves as threatened in some manner, (we may feel that our reality, or our bodies or our loved ones, are threatened) and we proceed to feel the next set of emotions, which may be anger, or rage or hate, based on our conditioning and energies.)
Fear based emotions are always a reaction to a voice that speaks of the ego's belief system.
The ego perceives the world as a dangerous place.
It sees other people as potential threat or as takers, and It perceives resources as limited and finite .
The ego also sees and believes in sickness and in death.
It holds the physical reality as the only reality and does not believe that spirit is real.
The second primary emotion is LOVE.
Some say that you can substitute the word GOD with the word LOVE.
That LOVE is all there is.
And love, as an emotion, may take the form of happiness, joy, peace, calmness.... Etc.
In our society, what people associate with happiness, is being jubilant, joyful, outwardly smiling, laughing...
But deep happiness, does not always take expression in a physical form.
One does not have to be smiling and laughing out loud, to carry a happy heart.
A state of happiness can be just a state of calmness and peace.... Reflected in quiet eyes....
It mostly stems from not holding on to fear based ideas and limiting beliefs.
When you are joyous, you do not need to be dancing in the streets...
A light and loving heart, is happiness and joy.
Happiness is also living with a calm mind...
Experiencing Contentment..... and a trust in the goodness of the Universe, and in your place in it
A sense of inner knowing that there is nothing to fear, beyond what situation you've created and therefore can create again....
When I speak about educating our emotional bodies,
I refer to the ability to judge what occurs with calmer minds and looking for a wider perspective, the ability to suspend judgement and to assume the best.
As we move deeper into our true beings, we learn to see that some emotions that came to the surface so easily in the past, are no longer called for.
We may find that we feel calmer and more peaceful more frequently, and less likely to drift into pain.
